Nice Advice


What’s your best life advice?

Growth is within the letting go…

I was reading a book this past weekend and it asked the question…”if you could give someone any advice about life, what would it be?”. Of course this question sparked a lot of thoughts within me, some were quick tidbits, while others were a little deeper. There is so much to take out of life. The experiences, the feelings, the limitless interactions within this great big World, how can all of that be summed up in a few short words or even a few pages? After giving it some more thought, this is what I came up with…

When we hold on to those things that we can not change, those things that bring us discomfort; our vision is limited, our heart is stunted and the road to becoming our best self suddenly becomes a dead end. When we allow ourselves to get caught up in the negative feelings, the possible hate, the “would'ves”, the “could'ves”, when we focus too much on the darkness, the whole world around us becomes bleak. It’s when we let go, it’s when we let love in, it’s when we widen the lens that we start to see all of the beauty this world holds. We often think that when we hold onto things it makes us stronger, but some of the best growth is within the letting go. Take a look at yourself, take a look at your life. Are there things weighing you down?  Does your heart hurt? Are you finding everything wrong with the World instead of all that is right? Too much time is wasted on the things we can not change. When we stop giving time to the wrong things and focus on giving our times to the right things, we not only understand the path we are on, we fully embrace the journey.

I don’t believe there is a right or wrong answer when it comes to life advice. Depending on where you are at in the journey, different words will hit you a little deeper and a little harder than other words and some will not make any sense until you reach the point when you need to hear them.  While an intricate of feelings and situations have lead me to the thoughts in the above advice, I believe it’s just a snippet of the many life lessons that are still waiting for me. I only hope they can be as amazing as the lessons I have already learned.

So if someone were to ask you today…”if you could give someone any advice about life, what would it be?”.


“I don’t think outside the box, I think of what I can do with the box.”


I think animals have a lot of great wisdom to share with us. For instance, Dewey enjoying the simplicities of a box, he was perfectly content just watching the world from the comfort of a plain old box! I wonder if he is in awe of me as much as I am of him?



I need to go see this movie (Ugly Dolls), it legitimately has the best soundtrack I have ever heard. This song right here is hands down one of my favorites right now! It has the best message…don’t be like anyone, just be like you!!! Love!!!

Who Said it Best…

“Kindness: One of the greatest gifts you can bestow upon another. If someone is in need, lend them a helping hand. Do not wait for a thank you. True kindness lies within the act of giving without the expectation of something in return.”


Wait, that’s not funny

I love Chelsea Handler. I have read and been following her for a very long time. When I picked this book up to read, I was expecting her usual comedic take on life, but I was pleasantly surprised to find that this book is about her life and how the things she has went through turned her into the person she is today. Of course there are some funny parts, but what I think I love the most about this book is it proves that even if someone is constantly funny, doesn’t mean they aren’t human and that is a lesson that we should all remember.


Who’s Who

I took the time to watch this over the weekend and it was sooo good. It was especially fun for me as I have 6 of the bestest friends and we like to go on fun adventures together, so I was constantly trying to figure out who was who. Can’t wait for us to be able to watch it together! A whole cast of SNL ladies, how can you go wrong!!


The one where Shea tries again

Don’t ever quit…

Oops I did it again…sang in my best Britney Spears voice. Here we are the start of another week and I have yet again promised myself that I am going to eat better, that I am finally going to get it right and that I am going to try and lose those unwanted pounds that have been fiercely hanging on for awhile now.

I am not perfect, I say as I wipe the cat hair off of my pants and am slightly entertained by the fact that I have had my shirt on backwards all day. I am a work in progress, daily. I am not sure I will ever get this eating thing down and I sometimes get frustrated in the fact that as much as I work out, I can’t be whatever size it is that I want to be, but time and time again, I keep trying.

According to Albert Einstein, Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Phew…I’m not insane!! While it may appear that I am, I am not in fact doing the same thing over and over again, I am doing the same thing with greater wisdom, bigger dreams and better persistence.

If you, like me, get frustrated in playing the same game with yourself and feel like you are never going to win, remember not winning is okay, but quitting, quitting is not okay! Keep trying! No matter how many times it takes, keep trying! One of those times when you are trying, it’s going to work and you are going to look back and be glad that you decided to keep going!

Last night as I was eating a scrumptious cookie from HyVee (they should really put my face on the front door and never let me in) I was thinking about what I wanted and while that cookie was one of the best I ever had, I knew that feeling was only going to be temporary and was not going to give me the long term satisfaction I was looking for. Okay, nay-sayers, that doesn’t mean I will never eat that cookie again because I for sure am, I am just going to learn how to eat it in a healthier way.

Will I misstep again? For sure! I call my falling off the wagon a “misstep” because sometimes in real life when we misstep: we stumble, we might fall, or we slam our head on the pavement; however we misstep we have choices, we can lie there, we can get back up or when we are really need it, we can ask for help (we can actually ask for help in any of these steps). Every time I misstep, I fall. Every time, I choose to get back up! The difference is the length of time that I am down lessens and the wisdom I gain when I rise to my feet makes me more powerful than before.

This is me. This is my constant struggle with finding the balance of weight, food and happiness!   It can be frustrating at times and oh how I wish carrots tasted as good as cookies, but this is one of the battles I was given. While this battle doesn’t define the person that I am, without it, I would not be the person that I am today.  Every good battle has a hero, this battle’s about to meet theirs!

‘Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hold on too long.’ —Tuesdays with Morrie

Nothing Butta love for you all!